When men are cheap with their money, they tend to be globally cheap! You deserve Better!Will an orange smell any different if you move it from your kitchen to your bedroom?
No! An orange is an orange no matter how you slice it!
And a cheap guy is a cheap guy no matter what the Holiday… be it Christmas, your birthday, Easter or Halloween he is never going to honor you in the way that you deserve- not because he doesn’t have the time, money, or creativity, but because he is cheap.
When men are tight with their money , they are tight with their time, affection, warmth, consideration, sympathy, and last bite of pizza. In other words cheap men tend to be globally cheap. It’s as if their cheap nature dominates almost every area of their lives.
Trust me on this.
Oaky don’t trust, but keep an open mind.
Take Nessa for example (all names are changed to protect the innocent) ; she came to my office about a year complaining that she was always doing nice things for her boyfriend, but he rarely made time to do anything sweet for her. According to Nessa he made good money as an accountant and she had high hopes of marrying him someday. Another major complaint was his insistence that they split all dinner and vacation tabs down the middle. These are classic complaints of women dating chepos!
They call themselves thrifty and responsible. I call them selfish and uptight.
If you opt to stick by your cheap man’s side through Valentine’s Day, please send me note with the following three questions answered on February 15th:
1. Did I wake up on February 14 with a tight note in my stomach, wondering if he would even bother to stop and pick up a discount greeting card?
2. At anytime on February 14th did I find myself experiencing jealous feelings because my sister , mother, friend, co-worker, etc. were honored in a special way on this day and I was not?
3. On February 14th , did my cheapo boyfriend order a medium pizza (for both of us), rent a movie, and fall asleep on the couch, only to wake me up at 3:00 am expecting sex?
If you even suspect that your answers will be close to a yes on any of these questions- dump his ass as soon as you can!
And please don’t forward notes suggesting good men are broke these days. A good man can honor the lady in his life for free. One of the most romantic Valentine’s Day gifts I ever received was a beautiful hand written poem from the man I was dating at the time. He had been laid off, but honored me with the poem, a nice home cooked meal , and an evening of more poetry and dancing on his patio.
My point in sharing the story is…he gave what he had. This makes him a generous person..
Is the man in your life generous with you and to you?
When you’ve had a rough day is he interested in talking it over with you or rubbing your feet?
When you have sex does he satisfy himself and then roll over and off to sleep leaving you in the lurch?
Does he share his time with you, happily and lovingly or do you have to work overtime to nail him down for a commitment?
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